We have to keep the rules and revelations we set for ourselves on a wall, because we’ll completely forget to live by them otherwise.
One month ago, I swear I developed the cure to the depression I was wading through at the time. Struggling to make a decision or say a thing, I remembered something very important… something that I’ve consistently forgotten going all the way back to a math video game on the Commodore 64 giving me an ugly face for every wrong answer.
It’s ok to be wrong literally all of the time.
Correct people can’t learn any thing
Be it a ruthless education, demanding parents, stern nanny, or harsh group of confidence stabbing friends, we get so up our own ass we don’t respect the process for what it is. It is not only ok to be wrong, it is GOOD to be wrong. People who think they are right all the time probably don’t have much to talk about. Obviously I wouldn’t know, because I haven’t met anyone like that. Our favorites are wrong so often, we cringe when we see their name in the Trending section. This the equality we should be fighting for! We should be able to be wrong and terrible so that we can, at the very least, learn from our mistakes. Ladies, you shouldn’t be looking for Mr. Right; you should be looking for Mr. Learn From His Mistakes And Thanks You For Pointing It Out.
What I’m fighting for here is not a pathway to be better than we were the day before. Nor am I pushing for a chance to make amends for whatever wrong you’ve wrought. The only thing I’m advocating for is the knowledge that you, however lowly you may feel, have the heartbeat given right to be wrong. Wrong as hell. You have the right to be so wrong, you might as well stop considering whatever is tying you up in knots in this moment. Just pick a thing, and move on. You trying to exert control over fate will not make you any more right - just more worried about being wrong.
You can be wrong all the time…
Remembering this was so liberating. I’d been sitting around agonizing over things to buy! Worrying about buying silly things is the opposite of what I want my life to be about. Do I get the MacBook with the 256GB of storage or 512GB for $200 more dollars? Do I buy a that expensive bag I want to travel with? How much fast food should I eat? Should I shower today? Should I admit I ask that question a lot?
Not only were these easy decisions to make, but I can practically double my stress or worse by simply not making them. Before, I was so afraid of being wrong that I just checked out for weeks. The potential mistakes held me stagnant for so long, I tried to quit everything inside my head but not anywhere else. But then I remembered the true strength of the my wrongness. I remembered that no one else knows what they’re doing either. So rather than doing nothing, I could just do anything I want instead and be wrong… or not. No one will do anything other than cry about it. And if they do more than that, it’s not like I can guarantee they wouldn’t have done that anyway.
The short list of wrong and boneheaded moves made by famous people
- Jared Kushner never did fix the Middle East, did he?
- Elon Musk called a dude a pedophile when he this man trying to save some trapped children.
- Christopher Columbus thought the Caribbean was Southeast Asia.
- Rudy Giuliani went from “America’s Mayor” to literally getting caught with his pants down in a Borat movie which pales in comparison to him moving his Office of Emergency Management inside the World Trade Center in 1997.
This is the location Mayor Giuliani was specifically told not to put it by his emergency head, and the chief of police in 1993 due to it being a major terrorist target. That office, designed to coordinate personnel during a crisis, had to be evacuated on September 11, 2001 as planes hit the buildings in which they were housed.
Also, shout out to Four Seasons Total Landscaping.
- Napoleon Bonaparte tried to invade Russia in the winter. I’ve never been to Russia, but it’s too cold for this.
- Napoleon Hill who wrote Think and Grow Rich was a grifter that never met Andrew Carnegie (who his book constantly references) or any of the other robber baron sociopaths he tells you to emulate.
- 62% of White Male voters cast votes for Donald Trump in 2016.
- Bill Gates' philanthropied his image while remaining the 4th richest person in the world like that’s not just investing money with a tax break. We see you Bill. Many of us sound crazy, but we still see you.
- People that delete Facebook to protect their data while still using Instagram and WhatsApp.
- Nixon, Kissinger, and them really shouldn’t have bombed Cambodia like that.
- Anyone that’s ever said advertising doesn’t work on them.
The Liberation of Being Wrongheaded
Don’t worry about being wrong. I can tell you with certainty that you will be wrong at some point anyway. You’ll do the research, ask people what to do, make a decision, and hate it. Then you feel stupid, but the only stupid thing here is feeling stupid about potentially making a mistake. What are mistakes when it’s ok to be wrong literally all of the time.
Once you realize that you can be completely wrong as often as you want you will feel like you’ve unlocked an incredible super power. It’s the same one that all the rich and powerful people have. They have it because they don’t respect anyone else enough to be stressed about being wrong for too long. They make many more decisions as a result, which is the only way to get better at making decisions.
Boom… there’s all the executive training you needed.
Of course, I could be wrong…
“If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.
The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.